Written by: Felicia Rand/ 2-6-20
Image source: Corsair's Business
It was 2007 when I met the devil in the flesh. We'll call her raggedy ass, "Dysheekie The Great." Dysheekie was a single mother in her late 20's. She was funny, smart and quick on her feet. She liked to talk a lot, was very opinionated and (as I would soon find out) she was the most elaborate, fearless, relentless, shameless, conniving, lying ass thief that I would ever come across in my entire life.
Dysheekie lied about everything Bruh...I mean EVERYTHING! She lied about being a nurse, she lied about her child's father, she lied about having cancer and about being in a sorority because I mentioned something about her shoes being pink & green. She lied to my
boyfriend's mom and said that I was trying to trap him with a baby in a plot to get his money.
This heifer even lied about being pregnant with twins at the same time that I was carrying my son! She got caught with a fake belly, wore sweater dresses in the summer time to hide it and then posted a fake obituary listing in the paper when 10 months were clearly up and she still had no babies or real ultrasound pics (or any other normal pregger evidence for that matter) to show for it!
It didn't take long until she graduated to identity theft and to be honest, it seemed like she would get away with murder if she decided to. Suffice it to say that she raised a lot of hell before the close relative that was dating her decided to finally rid us all of her foolishness.
There are a number of names that I could come up with to describe this woman but the three words that would always come to mind was, "fearless, resourceful and focused." Dysheekie always knew somebody, that knew somebody, that knew how to make ish happen. She got everything that she wanted. Period. No dream seemed too big or too far fetched for her and she always expected it to happen, now.
Once she made up her mind, it was a wrap! She would talk about what she wanted and before I knew it, she had it in her hands... and it used to piss me TF off!
I mean, I was a nice person who cared about everyone. She was selfish and only cared about her outcome. I would give people my very last dollar. She was "people." She would happily take that last dollar even if she didn't have an immediate need for it. I was quick to want to counsel and invest my heart and time into solving other people's problems.
She would listen to other people's problems for shear entertainment purposes and invested nothing more than shady advice that would give her a story to tell at another person's expense.
So why would God reward such a despicable person with everything her heart desired? Why should she have the good life and more importantly, wtf was I doing wrong?
The answer is simple. Whether she knew it or not, Dysheekie was using the Law of Attraction to get all of her needs met. Now here's how you can too.
1. Focus Man!
Have you ever heard the saying, "Where focus goes, energy flows?" What about, " Thoughts Become Things? " These two mantras follow the principles of the Law of Attraction.
In a nutshell, they mean that whatever you focus your energy on (what you think about the most) the universe will work to manifest because you spend so much time on it.
The more you think about it, the more you begin to feel emotions about it. The deeper the emotional connection gets, the more you begin to live it in your mind and play it out as if it is real right now. When you get to the point where you begin to cry, whether they are happy or sad tears, you are telling the universe that THIS is what you want more of!
If you automatically go into a negative head space and picture a thousand scenarios of how things can go disastrously wrong, then that is what you will get!
2. Let It Flow, Then Let It Go!
Life's a bitch and then you die, right? WRONG. I'll agree that life tends to throw us curve balls here and there. Everyone has a story and unfortunately, most of us have had to survive some pretty shitty moments in thing called life. Your spouse cheated on you, your kids always need something, someone hurt you physically or mentally, that promotion was supposed to be yours, you never have enough money...blah, blah, blah. If it ain't one thing then it's another, when it rains, it pours.
I get it. I've been there. Emotional scars can sometimes feel 1000 times worse than the ones you got from falling off your bike as a kid.
That being said, we're gonna stop right here and bring this pity party to a screeching halt! As you begin to grow and stretch into a better version of you, situations of your past will begin to surface. YOU MUST FACE THEM.
They will for sure cause an emotional reaction that will be similar to those that you felt when you experienced the initial wrong doing towards you. Don't try to brush them off or make them go away. Stew in the shit! Sit in it and let it flow. If it makes you mad, then be mad! If it makes you sad, then shed those tears!
Now I know what I said at the end of step 1, but please hear me out. When you are facing past experiences it is important to let your emotions flow instead of trying to hold them back. Tears can be extremely cleansing to the spirit. It allows for those repressed pockets of bad energy to be released. Once that process is done, you are now left with clarity to examine the situation and take note of how and why you were hurt.
When doing this, try to dig a little deeper. What triggered your reactions? Why did you react the way you did? Who hurt you and what did that person mean to you? How old were you when it happened? What kind of outcome would you have preferred in the situation?
Take the time necessary to sort through your feelings and then begin to identify what actions you need to take in order to heal from it. When you are truly done with something it will disappear from your existence. *Where focus goes, energy flows!*
3. Adopt An Attitude of Gratitude.
In the book, "The Abundance Project: 40 Days to More Wealth, Health, Love and Happiness," author Derek Rydall talks about how to let go of the negativity in your life by focusing on all of the good that you have right now. There is an exercise called,
"The Night Pages" that he says is a very powerful way to develop what he refers to as, "the have" state of being. This allows you to see for yourself all of the abundance that you currently have, that you are probably taking for granted. Seeing it written down on paper can help to build your belief by teaching you to be grateful for the good in your possession. That way you are no longer giving life and energy to the shit that no longer serves you. This makes it easier to let go!
Here are some snippets of the exercise using the, "I Have" list (you can click on this link "The Night Pages" to access the full exercise on his website.)
Write down your gifts, talents and abilities, the people that you value, and the money that you have (no matter what the amount.)
Include things that you don't own but have access to (i.e. the internet, resourceful buildings, water etc.)
Pay special attention to areas in your life that you've been wanting or looking for a breakthrough. Thoroughly make a note of all of the things that you actually have in that area.
Remember to focus on gratitude. Look at how much you've got to be thankful for! I actually smiled after doing this exercise.
In closing, it's not about being a good or bad person! It's about recognizing what's important in your life and choosing to pursue only that which makes you happy.
Oh and btw, you'll be happy to know that Dysheekie landed some jail time and eventually went back to hell raising somewhere far away. Yay!
Until next time Pretty Girl...
--Fe